Iyi ni imvugo igaragaza ko umugore yamaze ku kwitegura neza nk’umugabo we mwamaze gusezerana mukaba umugore n’umugabo byemewe n’amategeko n’Imana. Ese uyu mugore wamaze ku kwitegura ni ayahe magambo wa mwongorera ?
Abahanga bavuga ko amwe muri aya magambo wa mwongorera harimo , amagambo atangaje , amabanga mufitanye , ndetse n’ayandi aryohereye ukamenya neza ko aratuma amererwa neza akanafasha mu gutangiza ikiganiro cyanyu ario wowe ukayavuga ugambiriye gutuma aseka.
Ubusanzwe amatwi ni kimwe mu bice bikoreshwa mu kumva ndetse ku mugore ijambo ryiza aryumvira mu mutima kabone n’ubwo waba urivuze uri kure.Ku mugore wamaze ku kwitegura rero biba ibindi bindi. Mbere y’uko tugera kuri iki kiganiro , reka tubanze twumve amagambo yavuzwe na DeAnna Lorraine Umunyamerikakazi ufasha abakundana.
Yagize ati:”Dukururwa n’abagabo bazi icyo bashaka. Iyo umugabo azi kuganira neza ayo magambo rero, ntakabuza ‘Yego’ yanjye aba ari iye”. Muri aya magambo kandi haba harimo n’ashobora gutuma umugore amenya ko nawe umushaka ndetse ko uraza kumuha ibyishimo. DeAnna yagize ati:”Umugore naza arimo ku kwegera ubona ko yiteguye nawe ukavuga ngo ‘Yego’ mu ijwi rito , bizasa n’aho umuhaye uburenganzira bwo gukomeza ku kwegera birenzeho agamije kugera ku ibyishimo bye.Bituma akomerezaho”.
Mu gihe ubona kandi yamaze kugera mu kindi gihugu , wowe urasabwa ku mwongorera gake , usa n’umuhamagara mu izina.Uwitwa Jesca, yagize ati:”Abagore baba batangaje buri gihe, kwiyumva urimo kumuhamagara mu izina rye, bituma arushaho ku kwimariramo akumva adasanzwe.Byose bimukorere kuko ari wowe afata nk’umudasimburwa”.
Irindi jambo , uba usabwa ku mwongorera ni ‘Ndagukunda’ , ukarimubwira gake gake. Umugore witwa Arlene Goldman, yagize ati:”Uburyo ijambo ‘Ndagukunda’ ryumvikana ntabwo bisanzwe.Komeza umubwire ngo , nkunda uko uvuga , uko ureba n’ayandi”.
Buri mugabo aba asabwa gutuma umugore we yumva ko ari gukora ibidasanzwe kugira ngo yishime kuko umugore wese anezezwa no kunezeza umugabo we.
ANDI MAGAMBO UBA USABWA KU MWONGORERA.
1.Ndagukunda
2.Nkunda ukuntu uryoha
3.Ntakindi nifuza nta nicyo nifuje.
4.Ndashaka kugukoraho
5.Nkunda kukubona wikoraho.
6.Ngwino umfate.
7.Nkunda umubiri wawe.
8.Iri joro ndi uwawe.
9.Unkoresheje icyo ushaka.
Source: Marriage.com