Why Galentine’s Day Might Be Better Than Valentine’s Day

Why squeeze all your affection — flowers, chocolates, grand gestures — into a single February date? Instead of stressing over Valentine’s Day, this might be the year to step away from the pressure and celebrate something lighter: Galentine’s Day.

The idea comes from the sitcom Parks and Recreation. In a 2010 episode, Amy Poehler’s character, Leslie Knope, faces romantic frustrations — a failed setup for her mom and tension with her own partner. Fed up with Valentine’s Day expectations, she creates her own celebration the day before: a chance to honor friendships and herself.

Today, Galentine’s Day has grown far beyond a TV storyline. It’s especially appealing for women who are single — or even those in relationships who just want a break from romantic expectations. The tradition usually involves brunch with close friends, laughter, and often a generous pour of drinks. The point isn’t romance — it’s connection and joy.

Turning the Focus Inward

Whether you’re celebrating with friends, carving out quiet time in a busy household, or spending the day solo, this season can be an opportunity for self-reflection. After several challenging years, many people are recognizing the importance of self-care and self-compassion.

Relationship expert Rachel DeAlto emphasizes that loving yourself is foundational to building healthy relationships. While self-worth begins internally, the people around us can influence how we see ourselves. Taking stock of who supports and uplifts you is an important first step.

Psychologist Lauren Cook suggests treating yourself the way you’d treat someone you care about. Just as you might give a thoughtful gift or write a heartfelt note to a partner or friend, you can extend that same kindness inward. Too often, we offer others more patience and compassion than we give ourselves.

Relearning How to Love Yourself

Over time, social pressures and expectations can dull our natural self-confidence. Therapist Damon L. Jacobs points out that we were born with an innate sense of worth — babies don’t question whether they’re lovable. Reclaiming that mindset requires intention.

Spending meaningful time alone, engaging in activities that bring fulfillment, and reflecting on your strengths can deepen your sense of self. Practicing “unlearning” negative self-talk by focusing on positive qualities helps retrain the brain toward kindness rather than criticism.

Jacobs also encourages grounding self-worth in evidence — the real actions and accomplishments in your life — instead of listening to an overly critical inner voice. Consider the ways you’ve supported others, the good choices you’ve made, and the love you’ve shown.